last saturday, i gave a leadership training to the student leaders of paco catholic school. during lunch, a young boy named aron, came up to me and asked, "kuya ryx, what is self-discipline?". maybe it came up when i told them in an earlier session that good leaders practice exceptional self-discipline.
it made me stop and think. is this boy asking for just the definition, or something deeper than a what-it-is description? well, he was just an elementary student, but his eyes are gleaming with intelligence. nonetheless i just told him, "self-discipline is doing what you need to do and not doing the things you don't need to do". he nodded and went back to his group.
then again, what is self-discipline? how does one practice it? and more importantly, why does one have to practice it?
i think self-discipline is among the most important qualities in achieving success in life. if you can discipline yourself on what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not, your success is virtually guaranteed. i also think that the key to achieving success in life is long-time perspective combined with the ability to delay gratification in the short term.
self-discipline means self-mastery, self-control, self-responsibility, and self-direction. the difference between successful people and failures is that successful people make a habit of doing things that failures do not like to do. and what are those things? well, the things that failures do not like to do are the same things that successful people do not like to do either. however, successful people do them anyway because they know that these are the prices they have to pay to achieve the success that they desire.
successful people are more concerned with pleasing results. failures are more concerned with pleasing methods. successful people does things that are goal-achieving. failures do things that are tension-relieving. successful people does things that are hard, necessary, and important. unsuccessful people, on the other hand, prefer to make things that are fun and easy and which give immediate enjoyment.
the good news is that every act of self-discipline strengthens your other disciplines as well. and when you practice self-discipline, your self-esteem goes up. you like and respect yourself even more. and the more you practice self-discipline in small things, the more capable you become of the great disciplines and the great opportunities and experiences and challenges of life.
someone told me before, everything in life is a test. every day, every hour, and sometimes every minute, you are taking a test of self-mastery, self-control, and self-discipline. the test is to see whether or not you can make yourself do the things that are most important and stay with them until they are complete. the test is whether or not you can keep your mind on what you want and where you're going rather than thinking about things that you don't want or problems that you've had in the past.

Currently listening to: the argument - soaked
Currently watching: csi miami season 3 - killer date
Currently feeling: cheerful